Room To Fail

Space.  We all need it.  Space allows us the freedom to fuck up royally and learn.  

My Dad was a big believer in letting you stick a fork in the electrical outlet, metaphorically speaking.  I can't tell you how many times I heard him say something along the lines of "You'll only do it once."  Back then, I didn't really understand where he was coming from, but now...yeah. I totally get it.  If you're living in a world where everything you do is spot on perfect, and you're totally comfy, you're not living right.  You may not be living, period.  

We need to push ourselves outside our comfort zone and do things that have us nervous, and fearful of failure.  An example:  For my 21st birthday, I went bungee jumping.  I'm deathly afraid of heights.  I still am.  Bungee jumping, as it was described to me by a friend with a decidedly dark sense of humor, is "all the fun of suicide without the responsibility'.   Gee, thanks.

I'm happy to tell you that I did it.  I won't be doing it AGAIN, but that's kind of a 'Roley-ism': Try everything once, try the good things twice.  How else are you going to know?  

You likely have a bunch of things that you've seen or heard about that you're intrigued by, except for that ONE little facet that makes you nervous.  I would encourage you to try it.  So what if you fail?  You've learned something about yourself.  Maybe you'll be really good at something you haven't tried.  I know a few people that were nervous about getting up on a stage and trying improv for the first time, and wouldn't you know they were STELLAR at it.  

If you fail at something, the important thing is...NO ONE CARES.  If you're still upright, got a pulse, and exchanging air, you haven't damaged anything but your ego.  That's easily reparable: Learn, and try again, or move on to the next thing on that bucket list.  

In the end, this is an exercise in self-awareness of your what your passions are, and of your strengths and weaknesses.    That's a very good thing to be working out as you make your way.  Especially if you're looking for something to share with the people you care about, or if you're looking for something to build a platform about eventually.  

Give yourself the room to screw up.  'winning', for lack of a better term, lies on the other side. 

Kris Roley

Virginia Beach, VA, 23453