It’s been an…interesting week here at The Cove. Every so often I have one of those weeks that really test my resolve to be the person I want to be, and this was one of those weeks.
I’m not going to go into a lot of detail here about it, because that’s indirectly calling people out for various actions or inactions. Instead, I’m going to tell you that rather than dwell on all the bad stuff that happened, it’s a good thing to have the bad things happen. I really haven’t had this kind of week in a while, and here’s what I (re)learned:
It is totally ok to need to realign people’s priorities and expectations—and your own--based on what you are able to deliver. This card is always subject to change, and we don’t reassess this as often as we should. (A gentle reminder: No is a perfectly acceptable answer, even if it’s one people don’t like hearing. That's as much a reminder to myself as it is to anyone.)
How you deal with the curveballs reveals much about you. If you generate more heat than light when those curveballs come along, it usually doesn’t go well. Allow yourself time to think, allow for a little more light than heat, and you may find yourself receptive to all kinds of ways to solve the immediate problems without losing your cookies in the process. That's always been my challenge. Time = Distance = Critical Thinking = The Next Right Thing to do.
Do the next right thing.
Then do the next right thing after that.
Rinse, Lather, Repeat.
The haters, for lack of a better term, don’t have to live with you. You have to live with you.